Everyone feels jealous of their partner’s friends sometimes; it is an inevitable fact of life. It shows that you are possessive of your partner’s time and attention, which may be a turn on for some of you. However, like everything in life, moderation is the key. If you are overly jealous of your significant other’s friends, you will ruin your relationship eventually. Why is this so?
It Shows That You Are InsecureMost of you are jealous of your partner’s friends because you feel that they are much better than you in every way. Ladies, you may feel that your partner’s friends are prettier, more charming, more fit; meanwhile, gentlemen out there may feel that your partner’s friends are more driven, more successful and much richer than you. Either way, you are jealous because you are insecure. Your inferiority complex kicks in. When you feel insecure, these feelings will affect your actions and you become less confident when interacting with people. This in turn affects how people view you.
In this case they would view you as someone with low self-confidence and probably not a fun person to hang around with, which in turn feeds those negative feelings inside of you, completing the vicious cycle. Your friends and partner alike will wonder what happen to you, as your attitude towards things changes for the worse. Some of you may even have partners leaving you, simply because they can’t deal with your attitude anymore.
Nobody Likes the Clingy Overly Jealous Girlfriend
If you are acting like a stereotypical clingy overly jealous girlfriend one sees in sitcoms and movies, you may need to back up a little. In shows, the jealousy trait is played for laughs. In real life however, it becomes something highly irritating for your partner to deal with. Your partner would feel that he or she is dating a child that is incapable of sharing instead of a mature grownup.
In a relationship, both partners should trust each other. If you are calling him 24/7 to check up on him when he’s out with his friends, it shows a clear lack of trust in your partner, and your partner is definitely not going to take that behavior lying down. If your partner trusts you enough to not bother you when you’re out with friends, you should extend them the same courtesy. Healthy relationships need trust from both parties, and if you cannot trust your partner not to cheat on you with his friends, it may be better for the both of you to split. Unless your partner has given you legitimate reasons to not trust them, you should give them the benefit of doubt.
Another important thing you should remember is that even couples have their own social lives that are distinct from one another. After all, each person has their own different group of friends that they go to for different things. Some groups may overlap, but in the end, your partner has their friends and you have yours. There is no point in being jealous of them.